When two people meet the foundations they built as single people, they will puzzle together. Relationships start way before you ever meet “your person”. The relationship starts with you. How does this happen? Here are some questions that you can ask or do:
- We constantly learn about ourselves, but do you know who you are, what you want, and where you could go?
- Do you know what you want in a relationship? Do you believe in marriage or just companionship with no legalities?
- How do you view and handle money?
- Are you becoming the best version of yourself? Physically? Emotionally? Spiritually? Financially? Relationally?
- Would you ever change your faith or religion?
These are just a few of many, many questions. When you think about these questions nd if the person that you meet thinks about questions like these, when you two meet, you can discuss these together. You will see how the puzzle pieces of the foundations you have individually cultivated will join together or if they will. Sometimes the pieces will not fit and that is okay. At least you know. Sometimes, those will fit, and then you can decide to stay on the journey of getting to know, learn, and possibly love each other, or you can decide to go another route. The key here is knowing where each other stands, what each other wants, and what you are willing to work through or walk away.