When two people meet the foundations that they have built as single people will puzzle together. Relationships start way before you ever meet “your person”, the relationship starts with you. How does this happen? Here are some questions that you can ask or do:
- We are constantly learning about ourselves, but do you have a sense of who you are, what you want in life and where you could go?
- Do you know what you want in a relationship? Do you believe in marriage or just companionship with no legalities?
- How do you view and handle money?
- Are you becoming the best version of yourself? Physically? Emotionally? Spiritually? Financially? Relationally?
- Would you ever change your faith or religion?
These are just a few of many, many questions. When you think about questions like these and if the person that you meet thinks about questions like these when you two meet you can discuss these together and will see how the puzzle pieces of the foundations that you have individually cultivated will join together, if they will join together. Sometimes the pieces will not fit and that is okay. At least you know. Sometimes those will fit and then you can decide to stay on the journey of getting to know, learn and possibly love each other or you can decide to go another route. The key here is knowing where each other stands, what each other wants, and what you are willing to work through or walk away.