Welcome

Before We Say Hello is about becoming the best version of yourself while thoughtfully discovering your relationship desires and boundaries.

Have you ever met someone and been instantly taken over by butterflies and warm fuzzies just from standing near them? Butterflies and warm fuzzies are great, but those cannot cause you to cast caution to the wind and forgo common sense and good reasonings. This project is about having a healthy balance of both.

If you were preparing a meal for someone, would you just throw some things on the table and call it a meal? Is a table full of unseasoned raw meat, uncooked carrots, and potatoes appetizing? No. Hopefully, you would carefully prepare each dish with proper seasonings, warmth, and presentation. Same with ourselves, let;s thoughtfully prepare ourselves. There are six keys aspects that we will address in this project.

1)Physically

2) Spiritually

3) Emotionally

4) Financially

5) Socially

6) Recognize and stand by your non-negotiables

Are you the best that you can be in any of those areas? Do you want to throw a mountain of debt onto the table in front of a future spouse? While they may love you, is this really the best way to start and manage a life together? Any one of those six areas that are out of balance could affect how you join your life with someone down the line? Balancing an area out requires work, but work that is well worth it, not just for a potential spouse but for you.

Becoming the best version of yourself can cultivate self-worth and a love that you have for yourself. You will be less likely to accept just anything for yourself in terms of relationships. This helps immensely with establishing relationship desires, non-negotiables, and boundaries, and with promptly addressing any red flags you may see. There are too many people looking for someone to love them and value them when they don’t love and value themselves. It is out of order, and good people end up tolerating a lot of mess just for the sake of appearances of love. Love starts with you loving and valuing who you are.

We are not doing this just to catch someone’s heart, but to help you become the best version of yourself for you. If you meet someone special, great, you have done the work, and you are ready. If there is a delay in meeting your person, you are still a rockstar because you addressed key areas and your life is better and fuller because of the work you have done.

My prayer for you is that you become the best possible person you can be, and, God willing, that you meet your person. That you experience the love that your heart has longed for. I pray that you are healthy and able to give the love that your person desires, and that you both have a long and fulfilling journey of love together.

With that, are you ready? Are you ready to do the work, before you say….Hello?