The Mindful Pursuit

I was asked to share a list of what some non-negotiables might be. This is just a list and not what you should consider to be the template for your non-negotiables.

1. Spiritual beliefs/how does on practice their faith
2. Weight/ fitness goals/ height factors
3. Financial practices: believe in saving? investing? spending too much?
4. Retirement goals
5. Does this person drink or smoke? Does this person drink in excess?
6. Where does this want to live? Where are they opposed to living?
7. What is their work ethic?
8. What are their career goals?
9. What is their education level? Does this impact how you feel?
10. What is their sexual orientation?
11. What are their thoughts on pre-marital sex?
12. How do they honestly describe their sex drive?
13. What are their thoughts on having close friends of the opposite sex?
14. What are their political views? What political party do they identify with?
15. What are their views on mask wearing? Vaccination views or status?
16. How would they keep you safe or your family safe in your home during a pandemic?
17. Physical appearance, overall
18. Income
19. Do they want to have children, they answer can only be yes or no.

I recently saw on Facebook a video of a wedding that took forever.  Just the march alone could have been 20 or 30 minutes.   The groom walked down the aisle to his song, swaying and bopping to the beat.  Then, the groomsmen joined the soul-train groove, dancing and rocking their way down the aisle.  After that, the rest of the groomsmen and bridesmaids, pair by pair, waltz, rocked, swayed, two-stepped, gangsta leaned down the aisle.  Just when I thought that surely the bride would be next, nope, they were still dancing this thing out.

First, I am glad to see that they are getting married.  That in itself seems to be something of the past these days.  At the same time, I sincerely hope that they put as much effort into making their marriage a healthy and prosperous union as they did in getting married.

Over the years, I have pondered what type of wedding I would like to have. Of course, 50% of that answer depends on my groom. After seeing this wedding, I would gladly accept a simple, very meaningful candlelit ceremony and an elegant dinner for family and close friends after our vows of love and devotion, and then off to the honeymoon. Oh yes!!!!! Woo hoo. Okay, I will calm down.  Simma, simma down now.

With that, I am sure I could go back to the video right where I left off, watch it for a few more minutes, and still never see…..the bride.    Good Gracious!!!!  lol

To each his own though.  Every wedding, every relationship is like a fingerprint, no two are the same but all should bear the mark of genuine love and devotion.

Peacefully single, but looking forward to that special day.

What is Before We Say Hello?

There is a song from decades ago called, Your Love Makes Things Happen. Part of the lyrics goes like this: I’m tellin’ you love
Love makes things happen
You never know where it’s coming from
You never know who you’re gonna love

You never know where, when, or even if love will happen with another person, but I will tell you where it needs to start: with you. Yes, love starts with you. There are too many people looking for someone to love them and value them when they don’t love and value themselves. It is out of order.

Before We Say Hello is about becoming the best version of yourself. If you meet your person, great! If don’t ever meet your person, then you have still met the goal of rocking out ever best possible feature that you have. Max out your life by maxing out you in every way, physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually, everything.