The Mindful Pursuit

I was asked to share a list of what some non-negotiables might be. This is just a list and not what you should consider to be the template for your non-negotiables.

Spiritual beliefs/how does on practice their faith
Weight/ fitness goals/ height factors
Financial practices: believe in saving? investing? spending too much?
Retirement goals
Does this person drink or smoke? Does this person drink in excess?
Where does this want to live? Where are they opposed to living?
What is their work ethic?
What is their career goals?
What is their education level? Does this impact how you feel?
What is their sexual orientation?
What are their thoughts on pre-marital sex?
How do they honestly describe their sex drive?
What are their thoughts on having close friends of the opposite sex?
What are their political views? What political party do they identify with?
What are their views on mask wearing? Vaccination views or status?
How would they keep you safe or your family safe in your home during a pandemic?
Physical appearance, overall
Income
Do they want to have children, they answer can only be yes or no.

I recently saw on Facebook a video of a wedding that took forever. Just the march alone could have been 20, 30 minutes. The groom walked down the aisle to his song, swaying and bopping to the beat. Then, the groomsmen joined in the soul train groove and danced and rocked their way down the aisle. After that the rest of the groomsmen and bridesmaids, pair by pair, waltz, rocked, swayed, two-stepped, gangsta leaned down the aisle. Just when I thought, that surely the bride would be next, nope…..still dancing this thing out.

First, I am glad to see that they were getting married. That in it’s self seems to be something of the past these days. At the same time, it is my sincere hope that they put as much into making their marriage a healthy and successful union as they did with the act of getting married.

I have toggled over the years with what type of wedding I would like to have. Of course, 50% of that answers depends on my groom. After seeing this wedding, I would gladly take a simple, very meaningful candlelit ceremony and an elegant dinner for family and close friends after our vows or love and devotion and then off to the honeymoooooooon, oh yes!!!! woo hoo….okay I will calm down. Simma, simma down now.

With that, I am sure that I could go back to the video, right where I left off, watch it for a few more minutes and still, never see…..the bride. Good Gracious!!!! lol

To each his own though. Every wedding, every relationship is like a fingerprint, no two are the same but all should bear the mark of genuine love and devotion.

Peacefully single, but looking forward to that special day.